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What is spiritual caring or friending?
Spiritual care
and friending can involve
discussing matters of a personal nature with those for whom we are
caring. It is imperative that a carer treats matters discussed
confidentially unless there is a need to seek assistance from fellow
carers, in which case the anonymity of the cared-for person
should still be
maintained where possible. While it is
important for us to learn spiritual friending skills, and discussing a
conversation with a person provides this opportunity, we must always ensure that
issues are discussed only when the anonymity of the visited person can
be retained.
Below are some things
you can do
in a discussion:
Be spiritually aware through meditation and prayer.
Check on the background of
your friend and of their
current circumstances.
Observe hygiene routines – washing hands before and
after a visit if it
is to a hospital or care home.
Once you have been aware of the background, have a
plan for your
conversation, and be prepared to adapt.
Sit or stand where you and
your friend can
communicate comfortably.
Allow
your friend
to set the mood for your
conversation
so you can observe their state of mind from the outset.
Be empathetic, warm and accepting of
your friend's
attitudes and expressions, giving emotional support and encouragement.
Give your undivided attention.
Look for non-verbal communication.
Look for opportunities to explore
your friend's
feelings and spirituality.
Here are some things to avoid:
Prying
Anecdotes
Being judgemental. It is not for the carer to
determine whether a person’s action is right or wrong, but rather to
help a person explore their own perceptions for themselves.
Arguments, even if
your friend's language is
provocative
Preaching – but be prepared to talk about spiritual
issues.
Manipulating your
friend.
Being manipulated by
your friend.
Chiding your friend for the feelings they might express.
Encouraging unrealistic expectations of
your friend.
