New mother PDF

The saying goes - it takes a village to raise a child, meaning raising a child is a complex, demanding job, and is not easily accomplished by just one or two people.

Having a new baby can be stressful on new mothers and can result in the mother having baby blues or postpartum depression.  Here in Australia postpartum depression affects one out of every five women after they have given birth.  It is interesting that in cultures where mothers receive a lot of emotional support and care from family members there is hardly any baby blues and postpartum depression recorded. 

Which shows how important is for us to support new mums and their babies. After childbirth mothers are normally tired, and their body is mending after giving birth, they are sore and trying to learn how to breast feed or bottle feed correctly.  We need to care for mothers and fathers as they navigate the new baby and their routines into their lives, and bond with their baby.

Mothers can feel judged on their mothering skills often being compared to other mothers.  They can feel stressed with everyone wanting to hold and see their baby, with questions flying at them, how is the child sleeping? how is the child feeding? is the baby a good baby? how are you going breast feeding, and how are you coping?  People might also ask about the childbirth which for some can be a traumatic experience and may have not gone as hoped or planned.

Mothers can also feel they are under high expectations, from themselves, their families, health providers, nurses, and society.  Often, they can become stressed with the nurse’s regular check-up where the baby is weighed, and they are asked other questions about their care for the baby. This can be nerve racking with a feeling of judgement if the mother and baby have not lived up to the expectations of what they expect. 

The stress of the mother being left at home alone to care for their baby can cause them anxiety, as they are put in charge of their baby and expected to know what the baby needs or wants without the baby being able to say what they need or want, or even worse where their pain or discomfort is.

Fathers also can find this a difficult time with a new baby to care for, with the lack of sleep and being tired, the stress to provide for the baby, the change in relationship with his wife, and the extra duties at home, while still going to work to provide for the family.  

We need to understand the challenges of motherhood and recognize the importance of support.  Emotional support can involve just being there and listening, offering encouragement, guidance, and providing companionship.  We need to assure them that they are doing a good job of mothering. Physical support might include helping with household tasks and baby care.

Ways to help a new mother